tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3123235165783760852.post1217990056444670551..comments2023-10-28T18:27:28.160+11:00Comments on Garden Variety: Future perfectKrishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14346897774489967919noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3123235165783760852.post-83022943268223663642008-04-29T09:24:00.000+10:002008-04-29T09:24:00.000+10:00Kris, a most heartfelt thank you for this post. I...Kris, a most heartfelt thank you for this post. I remembered it today, in the midst of a very difficult day, and then thought of it often--it helped get me through calmly...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3123235165783760852.post-47423121656256967412008-04-14T14:35:00.000+10:002008-04-14T14:35:00.000+10:00Oh I so hear you on the horribleness of kids somet...Oh I so hear you on the horribleness of kids sometimes. And on the temptation to just exercise our larger physical strength, just because we can. <BR/><BR/>Yay for you for being able to have that breath of space before lashing out. It is such an expansive space, I see it like a pause button, where you can actually see that vase of flowers, or the love for your child, despite whatever rattiness or ugliness is going on at the time.<BR/><BR/>Your garden sounds like it will be a lovely palette of colour throughout spring and summer. I'm only a stumbling, beginning gardener myself, so hold in awe people who know how things may look once flowering/planted etc. Such an inspiration!tamarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14011112276180628214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3123235165783760852.post-11751098120724259972008-04-14T12:31:00.000+10:002008-04-14T12:31:00.000+10:00children can be a handful most of the times, it ma...children can be a handful most of the times, it makes me want to think really hard before i embark on that big responsibility. Good luck and may you have better days :)<BR/><BR/>Arlene,<BR/><A HREF="http://www.flowerstogoonline.com/Port-Orchard-Florist---Port-Orchard-Flower-pi-5.html?cID=2&osCsid=98d7d3cca04a6ec36a817db2c95674f7" REL="nofollow">Port Orchard florist</A>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3123235165783760852.post-804044813107201122008-04-14T12:04:00.000+10:002008-04-14T12:04:00.000+10:00On the days when I really want to throw the kid ou...On the days when I really want to throw the kid out the window, I am very grateful for my Mum being so near by, and for the old friends, at least one of whom is usually available to take him away for half an hour or so while we reset.<BR/><BR/>For the fractionally less trying bad days, I find heading out in public is a good idea. If it doesn't work on distracting him, and altering his mood, it at least gives me some exercise and fresh air. That's harder once you're not getting the kid into a stroller though, and obviously it's useless if you're trying cook dinner or get the little bugger into pajamas. Focussing on the flowers is good. I tend to focus on the beer at the end of the day...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3123235165783760852.post-12585241152073742222008-04-13T22:25:00.000+10:002008-04-13T22:25:00.000+10:00I agree with everything Kez just said. I have two ...I agree with everything Kez just said. I have two little neices that get smacked willy nilly at any tantrum and they now expect it.Even their Nanna get in on it. Its horrid and when we witness this on visits-we leave. I was blessed with one very very good child but I just know that Master Nine Mths (Tyler) is going to be a little....Trying! He is so different from his sister. But today there is so much sadness and bad news stories that I thank the heavens that I was able to have children, healthy children and that when they are little shits, I take a deep breath and remind myself of this. We are so lucky to have horrible, healthy, gorgeous children aren't we. Hug her with gritted teeth love and make sure she gets a good education to get a fantastic job to pay for all your dental bills love! Well thats what I will be doing with Tyler, I'm sure!lol xoxoJodihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15392998706218821035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3123235165783760852.post-18292500117323563532008-04-13T22:19:00.000+10:002008-04-13T22:19:00.000+10:00yep, I've reached that point on occasion where I w...yep, I've reached that point on occasion where I want to smack. At times it has been so bad, we've discussed whether we should, but always come back to thinking it's wrong and doesn't teach anything useful. So we do time out (sometimes more for me) and holding (when everyone just needs to move on). I certainly understand much more than I used to how parents come to smack and why.<BR/><BR/>Thank goodness for gardens.Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03229973177266678746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3123235165783760852.post-47106094112365060202008-04-13T20:18:00.000+10:002008-04-13T20:18:00.000+10:00I think we all go there - just because we love our...I think we all go there - just because we love our kids doesn't mean we always like them. Hold on to the flowers...<BR/><BR/>I read a post recently which suggests pretending they're not your kid so you can take a step back and treat them as if you were looking after them. Sometimes I pretend that there are other people around - I hate to admit it but I can sometimes treat my child a lot nicer in public than I do at home :(Kezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15915193876879614644noreply@blogger.com